Geri & Jackie’s Attraction is Deeper Than Physical

On their first date, Jackie and Geri talked for four hours!

On their first date, Jackie and Geri talked for four hours!

After spending two and a half years as friends, Geri and Jackie took a leap of faith and went on their first official date. And on July 5, 2014, the two exchanged vows and became wife and wife. The happily married couple, who live in Upper Marlboro, Md., recently told us their sweet love story:

Black Lesbian Love Lab (BL3) : How did you meet?

Geri & Jackie: We met through mutual friends at a lounge in Washington, D.C. Initially, we were just friends for more than two years.

BL3: What attracted you to each other?

Geri: She is just simply an amazing person. My attraction to her goes far beyond the physical. In my view, she is undoubtedly one of the most beautiful women on the planet, but my attraction goes far beyond that. Ironically, a year prior to meeting her, I wrote a description of my perfect match. Not the physical attributes, but rather the intellectual and emotional characteristics that I view as the most essential in a life partner. Jackie meets every single descriptor I outlined in my blog. It was amazing to find someone like-minded, who has a great love for God, family and friends.

Jackie: Even when we were just friends, I was always drawn to her outgoing personality.

As mentioned before, initially we were just friends, but as I got to know her I became increasingly attracted to how sweet and kind she was, the fact that she was always thinking of others and had a way of making people around her laugh!

As she said, obviously we found each other physically attractive, but our chemistry goes beyond that. We both are silly as heck, and she constantly keeps me laughing. Her sense of humor was definitely a factor in my falling for her.

BL3: Tell us about your first date.
Geri: It’s so funny because we regularly reminisce about our first date. It was really crazy because we had hung out countless times as “just friends” for more than two years, so leading up to our date was both exciting and scary. We had such an awesome connection as friends, we didn’t want to ruin things by taking our relationship on a different path.

Jackie: I was SO nervous leading up to the first date. After being buddies for so long, I was nervous how we would interact with each other on an official date.

Geri: On our first date, I made a reservation at one of my favorite restaurants in D.C. I had her meet me at my job, and when she arrived in my office, looking absolutely gorgeous, all I could do was smile. I instantly stopped viewing her as just a buddy, LOL.

Jackie: Seriously, I was sweating and my stomach had huge butterflies as I arrived at her office. In true fashion though, she made me laugh, and eased my anxiety. From that moment on, the rest of the date was so incredible. We went to the restaurant and ate a wonderful meal and sat and talked for more than four hours. The entire evening was absolutely perfect.

Geri: I knew she was perfect for me that night, because we talked about everything under the sun. Good conversation is a must for me, and we had plenty of that on our first date. And we capped the night off with our first kiss, and that sealed our forever.

BL3: How long have you been together?

Jackie & Geri: We’ve known each other for about 5 years, but have been in a relationship for approximately 2 ½.

BL3: What do you love about each other?

Geri: It would take me the next decade to describe all of the things I love about her. Simply, I love that she is my rock. I wrote a poem for her, in which I say, “She carries the weight of my world on her shoulders so seamlessly,” and it’s so true. I’ve always had to be the strong one, with family/friends, and I love that I have her to be my strength when I feel weak. She is an amazing care-giver, and I absolutely love and appreciate her for that.

Jackie: I love so many things about my wife. She is the most romantic, caring person I’ve ever met. I love that she goes the extra mile to make sure that she shows how much I am loved.

Her actions and her words are always aligned, when it comes to her expressions of love for me. Our relationship is just so easy-going, and genuine, and I wouldn’t change a thing.

BL3: Why did you decide to get married?

Jackie and Geri sport huge grins at a pride event.

Jackie and Geri sport huge grins at a pride event.

Geri: Prior to being with her, I never thought that I would get married. I don’t think that I ever thought that I would find anyone that I could see spending the rest of my life with. Now, with her, I can’t see my life without her. Marriage was just a natural progression for our relationship–the ultimate expression of our love.

Jackie: There was never any doubt that we would get married. I was previously married, and never thought I’d want to get married again, but the moment I fell in love with her, I knew that I wanted to take our vows, and share our love with our friends and family.

Gallery: Shawnte and Tavia Celebrate Their Love at Home

Shawnte and Tavia celebrated their love in their Maryland home. Photos by Ashlee Nikole Photography

Shawnte and Tavia celebrated their love in their Maryland home. Photos by Ashlee Nikole Photography

Shawnte and Tavia recently enjoyed a fall wedding with friends and family in their District Heights, Maryland home. They said the most exciting thing about that day was having an opportunity to share our love with our friends and family. They share more about falling in love and their wedding below:

Black Lesbian Love Lab (BL3): How did you meet?

Shawnte and Tavia: We have a mutual friend in L.A., but we connected on Facebook.

BL3: What attracted you to each other?

Shawnte: I liked that Tavia is beautiful, very firm and set boundaries.

Tavia: I liked that Shawnte has a great sense of humor and is very intelligent.

BL3: How long have you been together?

Shawnte and Tavia: 1 year and 3 months.

BL3: Would you say this was a whirlwind romance then?

Shawnte: Mmmmm we just “got” each other. Felt like we knew each other forever. We decided after committing to a relationship that this was it for us.

BL3: Why did you decide to get married?

Shawnte and Tavia: We couldn’t imagine life without one another. Our bond is unbreakable.

BL3: Tell us a bit about your wedding day. What made it special?

Shawnte and Tavia: Our theme was jazz in the fall and we got married outside with the beautiful fall foliage. All of our friends and family were there to help us celebrate and that made our day extremely special.

BL3: What wedding traditions did you keep and which ones did you get rid of and why?

Shawnte and Tavia: Well, we did not see each other before the wedding and we did not throw the bouquet because it was made out of steel 🙂

BL3: Those blue shoes are the truth!

Shawnte: That was our “something blue.” I changed my shoes two days before the wedding. Had them shipped next day.

BL3: Where was the wedding and reception held?

Shawnte and Tavia: We got married in our beautiful backyard and because of the rain, the reception was in our home.

BL3: How did it feel to exchange vows? Did you write your own vows?

Shawnte: I was nervous, longwinded and very emotional.

Tavia: She was very calm and quick. We wrote our own vows.

BL3: When was your actual wedding date and why did you choose that date?

Shawnte and Tavia: Oct 11, 2014. It’s between our birthdays.

Enjoy more photos from their special day in the slideshow below.

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Click here to see even more photos from their special day. The couple was also highlighted in Autostraddle’s list of “21 Queer and Trans Couples of Color that Make our Hearts Flutter.”

Gallery: Tayo & Tara Merge African American & Jewish Traditions

Tayo and Tara jump the broom. Photos courtesy of Amy Ann Photography

Tayo and Tara jump the broom. Photos courtesy of Amy Ann Photography

Ohio newlyweds Tayo and Tara fully embraced both sides of their cultures in at their recent wedding celebration in Ohio.The couple first performed a hand washing and signed ketubah. For the larger ceremony outside, guests faced first one way then the other as they listened to quotes from African-American authors and a traditional Jewish ceremony under the chuppah. The couple finished the multicultural ceremony by jumping a broom and breaking a glass. And for the reception? Everybody was on board for The Cupid Shuffle and for breaking the Hora!

Enjoy these photos of this adorable couple. They look completely in love!

See more gorgeous photos at Offbeat Bride.

LaShay & Bakari Marry in a Baltimore Park

LaShay and Bakari Jones jump the broom in St. Mary's Park in Baltimore. Photo by Renee Hollingshead

LaShay and Bakari Jones jump the broom in St. Mary’s Park in Baltimore. Photo by Renee Hollingshead

Lashay Harvey and Bakari Jones recently celebrated their wedding in the same place they got engaged–St. Mary’s Park in Baltimore. They chose a summer celebration because  wanted their “future summers to be filled with celebrations” (LaShay’s birthday is in June and Bakari’s is in August). They shared their love story and wedding photos with Elixher

ELIXHER: How would you describe your special day?

BAKARI: I decided that I wanted to feel like a prince the entire day so I’d describe it as “princely.” [Laughs.] Seriously, the day was completely covered in Black Magic; it unfolded like a flower. Plus, it rained that morning (good luck in our culture) so it was as if our ancestors had given us the “cherry on top” before the sundae. 

ELIXHER: What’s been the best part of being married so far?

LASHAY: There is something so magical about looking at your best friend every morning, and knowing that you are about to build a wonderful life together. Bakari and I started building something in our past lives so it feels amazing to start manifesting our dreams together now. Hearing folks call us “The Joneses” doesn’t hurt either! 

Click here to read more about this lovely couple’s Love Jones Meets the Lion King wedding day


Bakari and LaShay exchange kisses at Penn Station in Baltimore. Renee Hollingshead

Bakari and LaShay exchange kisses at Penn Station in Baltimore. Photo by Renee Hollingshead

Watch: Katrina & Maricela Celebrate Their Love in Florida

One of my Facebook friends recently got married and honeymooned in Florida. Yesterday, Katrina shared her wedding video with us. She and Maricela held their marriage celebration in their home state. I loved the entire video but was especially touched by the family support both women had on both sides. I also loved this part of their vows: “I promise to give you the best part of myself and accept you the way that you are.”

Congratulations ladies and wishing you a lifetime of love!


Katrina & Maricela Same Sex Wedding in Orlando from Key Moment Films on Vimeo.

Love and Marriage Goes Together Like

One of the reasons I started this blog was to place a spotlight on women of color in love. I’ve always been inspired by love. I believe that when two people are able to accept and love each other, it is a reason for celebration. Their love is one more way of creating light in a world where so many things are wrong. Equally Wed‘s documentation of this couple’s beautiful wedding day certainly put a smile on my face. Five years after first meeting on MySpace, the couple tied the knot in Long Island, N.Y. Congratulations to Gracie and Rosanna! See more pics and read their story at


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