Alana and Lori: “Matching Tattoos Are Overrated, Let’s Get Matching Scars”

Lori and Alana selfie

Written by Zamara Perri

Lori and Alana's Tinder profile pics were used to announce that their kidneys matched..

Lori announced that her kidney was a perfect match for Alana by mocking up their Tinder profile pics.

This holiday season at least one lesbian is receiving the best gift ever. The video of Lori Interlicchio announcing to her girlfriend, Alana Duran, that not only did their hearts match but their kidneys as well has gone viral and for good reason—it’s reminding us of what true love is all about.

The video shows Alana going through a sweet gift box with all of Alana’s favorite goodies. Lori wrote on one of the cards in the gift box, “I’m making you choose between me and that damn dialysis machine. Tattoos are overrated. Let’s get matching scars.” At the very the bottom of the box were pictures from their Tinder profiles announcing that their kidneys were a perfect match. Alana’s emotional expression was priceless:

 

We talked to Lori and Alana on the eve of Thanksgiving while they spent the holidays with Alana’s family. This is what they told us:

It was the end of summer when both Lori and Alana were looking for someone to hang out with so naturally they turned to the Tinder dating app. Lori had just moved back to New York and had been hanging out with her sister and her sister’s girlfriend. Alana had also been looking for friends and maybe something more.

Little did they know what that something more would be. Alana, a college student studying psychology, has struggled with Lupus pretty much all her life. The autoimmune disease has meant extensive hospital stays, near heart failure, a hip replacement and dialysis for the past four years.

An Accidental Meeting

Lori and Alana pumpking picking

Alana does not let her illness get in the way of being active and enjoying life

Alana had a corny message on her Tinder profile that immediately made Lori chuckle. Lori messaged Alana and they began texting. They officially met Labor Day weekend while they were on Fire Island in New York. Due to a communication break down the two had no idea that they would end up in the same bar at the same time. They were so excited to run into each other. The two would take breaks from the dancing, loud music and drinks to chat.

At the end of the day as Lori and her sister were leaving to catch the ferry, Lori asked Alana for a kiss “It was a pretty good kiss,” Lori said.

Alana asked Lori she wanted to go on another date where they didn’t have to yell at each other. They ended up going to a cheese restaurant and played video games afterwards, which Lori admitted that she was terrible at.

Alana never hid the fact that she was sick. Lori remembers that Alana casually brought it up on Fire Island.

“I do dialysis at home,” Alana said. “It’s a lot of equipment and I can’t hide it.”

Lori said, “When she brought it up, she didn’t fit the bill of someone who was sick. She goes tot the gym all the time and she’s fit. I super respect the fact that she never let her being on dialysis be an excuse or hold her back from doing anything she wanted to do like travel or hiking.”

Lori, a former Human Rights Campaign coordinator and a regular blood donor who coordinated blood drives, was big on helping anyone in need. So when Lori heard that Alana had been on a waitlist for a kidney for four years, she wondered what she could do to help. Alana had finally gotten a kidney in May but because she was in the hospital with the flu, she couldn’t accept the kidney. That had been a major disappointment.

“I asked my friends if it was crazy that I had been on four dates with this girl and wanted to donate a kidney,” Lori said. “I also asked myself if this was someone else and not the person I was dating would I be comfortable doing this? I talked to Alana about getting tested and the rest was history.”

Getting tested for a kidney is a long process and even though they may match, other health concerns could prevent the process from going forward. So until she was absolutely certain that there were no hiccups, Lori did not want to get Alana’s hopes up again.

What Happens if They Breakup?

Lori and Alana selfie

Lori and Alana met over Labor Day weekend and will forever be part of each others’ lives.

“It’s a weird dynamic,” Lori said looking at her girlfriend. “You’re still allowed to break up with me. I still have to do dishes. I feel like any relationship where you’re getting an organ from someone can throw things off.”

Alana said, “We were laying in bed one day when we talked about that if something were to happen between now and February. She said, ‘I still want to give this to you.’”

Alana said, “Even if doesn’t work out and we do break up, she’s still willing to give me a kidney and that’s amazing!”

Lori says, “I feel feel like this is going to bring us closer. I feel like it’s nice to know that she’s literally always going to be part of me. It makes our relationship pretty real.”

 

Alana’s Family Welcomed Lori With Open Arms

Alana says her family automatically loved Lori. They had watched her go through hard times and saw her almost die so to have a perfect stranger willing to donate a kidney so her quality of life could be better was the best gift ever.

Lori’s family was also a bit skeptical, but once they met Alana, they loved her too and supported Lori giving her Alana the kidney.

 

The surgery is scheduled for February 2016.

Can a Militant Black Lesbian Fall for a White Woman? Short Answer, Yes

Story by LezIntellect/Diary of a Black Lesbian

This couple met on the set of Orange is the New Black. Samira plays Poussey, one of the prisoners, and Lauren actually discovered her latent lesbianism while writing for the show.

Interracial lesbian celebs Samira Wiley and Lauren Morelli met on the set of Orange is the New Black.

I’ve been thrown a curve ball in life. It’s something that I never saw coming. Perhaps it is some type of cruel poetic justice for my racist views and hatred. It’s also probably the MAIN reason I took such a harsh tone with my brother about his family.

What’s the curve ball?
I have fallen in love with a white woman … and it’s killing me on the inside!
I certainly didn’t see it coming. I met her in a gay/lesbian bookstore. I was reading the back of a book when she came up and began browsing the bookshelf next to me. I was about to move out of her way when she said, “It’s okay … you’re fine.” Up until that point I hadn’t paid the woman much attention. When she spoke I looked up from the book and I was met with one of the most striking women I’ve ever seen. This wasn’t a plain Jane white woman. This woman was a 10!
The thing that startled me the most was her eyes. She has the most striking pair of sapphire blue/gray eyes I’ve ever seen. In fact, the only time I can recall ever seeing eyes similar to hers was on a character from Dallas. Her name on the show was Katherine Wentworth …
I honestly wonder if her eyes are some type of genetic mutation … but then that’s neither here nor there …

Anyway, for the purpose of this blog and all future blogs this woman will be nicknamed Sapphire.

That day Sapphire and I started a conversation. That conversation led to an exchange of phone numbers. The exchange of phone number led to several late night conversations. Those conversations eventually led to dates. Those dates led to a kiss that took place Sunday. And now here I am … feeling some kind of way because I feel some kind of way about this woman.

I’m a hypocrite.

Part of the reason I blasted my brother is because he married a white woman. I was also blasting myself internally for falling for one. I’ve tried to justify my feelings for this woman by telling myself, “Well she’s not an American white woman. She is a Canadian….” which she is by the way.

I’ve told myself, “Her ancestors didn’t own slaves and they played no part in Jim Crow.”

I’ve told myself, “She’s not like those other whites …”

But no amount of justification can possibly explain how or why I ended up falling for a white woman.

The uncomfortable truth is I’m falling in love … and it feels good. Maybe this is God’s way of trying to tell me something. Perhaps I need to change my views on race. I don’t know. What I do know is that I don’t want to let this woman go.

I like her … I like her a lot.

When I Traded in My Girlfriend for a Wife

Kate Davis (right) is proud to call the woman she married, four years ago, her wife.

Kate Davis (right) is proud to call the woman she married, four years ago, her wife.

Can lesbians have wives? Can lesbians be wives? Isn’t the term “wife” smack of ownership, oppression and heteronormativity? Considering how non-traditional lesbian unions are, the term wife may give some people pause. Six months after marrying her longterm partner in a church ceremony, Kate Davis was still struggling with this word. In a piece for Tue Night, she explains the struggle:

“Wife is such a loaded word for lesbians. When I married my girlfriend, it took at least six months before I could call her wife. I’d skate around the issue; she was my partner, my spouse, my lover. All of those words seemed more appropriate than wife. Wife comes with ownership — baggage neither of us could carry.

… The word “wife” reeks of subjugation and roles we couldn’t play. We are partners in almost every sense of the word. We are eldest daughters; no one is going to tell us what to do, think or be. The concept was contrary to who are.”

And so Davis and her wife decided that for them, the word “wife” did not have to be tied to old ideas.

Click here to read Davis’ entire piece.