Yep, I Looked Through My Honey’s Phone! Big Mistake!


Written by Luvly Jones

Now, I would like to pride myself and say I am not the type of lady to look through my woman’s phone and I was … until recently. I had a funny feeling and my female intuition was coming in strong and hard. Something came over me and said, “Look through that phone” and next thing you know, I was all up in the business! But I wish I never did. Pandora’s Box was opened and BOOM!

So here is the story …

During this time, my honey and me were not in the best place emotionally. She was very distant and I was trying to figure out why. I knew that her ex had been texting and calling her, giving her the “Why don’t we get back together” business and the “I still love you blah blah blah” crap. So when my honey stepped out the car to go to the store and left her precious Samsung 3 in the cup holder, I knew it was my perfect opportunity to see what was being said between them.

It's so tempting to look through your partner's phone! Image courtesy of

It’s so tempting to look through your partner’s phone! Image courtesy of

Well, I found out that the ex was coming in to town. I know I should have kept my cool, but I went crazy. She came back into the car and immediately she could feel that my attitude had changed. She asked, “Baby, what’s wrong?” Of course I said, “Nothing” because I was not about to be found guilty of searching though her phone! I starting texting my bestie, so my honey asked me what I was texting. I told her nothing. Mind you my attitude sucked and we were having a great day before this. She snatched my phone to read what I was texting:

Girl, why I think her ex is in town and she is going to see her tonight.

My honey then asked me why I thought that her ex was here and then I blew up: I proceeded to accuse her of lying about the events she had planned that evening. I started to tell her how she has been making me feel and how distant she had been and while I am saying all of this I am leaving one thing out—that I went through HER PHONE. This made her think I was crazy because I am accusing her of lying and she has no idea why. See, I read the text messages wrong and thought the ex was in town that weekend, but she was coming the next month. By the way, these text messages were recent in her phone at the time and so if she was going to tell me, I didn’t even give her a chance to do so.

In the end, I put myself through so much unnecessary turmoil and torture. I totally misconstrued the few texts that I read on her phone, and had it all wrong, which caused unnecessary grief and heartache to the both of us! About a month later, I finally told her that I went through her phone. She was happy that there was a reason for my crazy but felt slighted that I withheld that piece of information because it explained a lot. OMG, I am soooo glad that snooping segment of my relationship is over! Going through someone’s phone is just too draining and it really takes a toll on you. And truly, with phone snooping, one of two things are going to happen: you will either have peace about what you read or all hell will break loose and Pandora’s Box will be opened!

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About Luvly Jones

I play it cool, I dig all jive, that’s the reason I stay alive, my motto, as I live and learn, is dig and be dug in return – “Motto” by Langston Hughes

These telling words, expressed by Langston Hughes, is the “motto” that Luvly Jones lives by. As a typical child of a military family, Luvly travelled coast to coast, which constantly forced her to adjust to new schools, new surroundings, and make new friends. That is why understanding others and being understood is very important to her. Luvly first began writing poems and short stories as a tool to navigate through the trials and tribulations of her ever-changing childhood. In her love for the arts, she found connection and cultivated most of her friendships.

This Cali girl, the oldest of three, grew up in a very religious household as the daughter of a Christian pastor. Needless to say, coming out at the age of 16 was not an easy task nor easily accepted by her family. Thus, adding to the complexity of her childhood. And to this day, her sexuality is not something that is acknowledged nor completely accepted by her family. Therefore, the bond that she shared with her friends became her main support system as well as her second family.

After dating a plethora of women, resulting in many life lessons, Luvly finally did her official lesbian duty and u-hauled with the woman she thinks could be “the one.” Each and every day, Luvly experiences new and exciting adventures in her relationship and via her handful of quirky friends and their interesting dating lives. Through this window into her life, she hopes that you can acquire some knowledge from her failures and successes, and hopefully vice versa.

Waking up Luvly is a column about awareness, love, conflicts and getting through a relationship without getting arrested. Join her on her journey of continual self-discovery on this roller coaster of pure estrogen.