November 6, 1990 marked the day that Wendy and Rose met. They have been together ever since. They live in the small town of Princess Anne located on Maryland’s conservative, rural Eastern Shore. We talk with them below to learn more about them:
Black Lesbian Love Lab (BL3): How did you two meet?
Wendy: Rose was a new teacher in Baltimore and had just moved there from Connecticut. She was teaching downtown when some of her friends took her to a club on Lexington Street. When I got to the club, it was closing. We hadn’t met yet. Both of us were headed to an after party and she was parked behind me. She walked by my window, her coat flapping in the wind in slow motion and I told my gay friend, “She’s the one. That’s the one I’m going to end up with.”
I’m the kind of person who is used to walking into a club and everyone noticing me and ordering me drinks. She didn’t notice me, which made me very upset. When we got to the club, I asked my friend if she noticed me. He said no. And I said, “I’ve got to fix this.” I walked up to her table, asked to sit down and told her I have 10 questions for her and to not say anything but yes or no. I was a bouncy, tiny 25-year-old then. I asked her if she had a car, her own place, if she drinks, if she had a career. The last question I asked her was if she had a girlfriend. She said, yes. And I said, “Get rid of her. It’s my turn.” I wrote my number down for her.
The next day she didn’t call me, so I called her. She said she did try to call me. In any case, she asked me to come over where she was living in Towson and I never left. She got up to go to work the next day, and I asked her if she was going to drop me off. She told me to stay until she came back. The first night was our first date and we never left each other. It was instant love, it wasn’t just attraction. After our first kiss, I said, “I love you.” I had to grab my mouth because I didn’t mean to say it.
Rose: Yes, it was instant love. It was like we fit like a hand in a glove. We both knew it. When the right one comes, you know it and you don’t want to be without them.
Wendy: I moved in after the first night. I went and got my clothes from my apartment and officially moved in two days later. We were together after the second time I saw her.