Convention tells us that nothing about the smoking hot scene playing out on my computer screen (and thousands of other computer screens over this past weekend) is godly. In the space of a six-minute film, two black, queer women are shown falling in love, going through the day-to-day challenges that all couples face and reigniting their passion for each other by trying something unexpected.
In the micro-film, “Sex is a God Thing,” which is far from pornographic and closer to art, bodies collide, sensual kisses are exchanged, dance is a metaphor for the erotic exchange, and both women are unashamed. Rashida Khanbey, the film’s creator, producer and one-half of the on-screen couple, uses her years of ballet training and theater degree to showcase a central tenet of the film—the sacred and erotic are not separate.
Black Lesbian Love Lab (BL3): Wow ladies! I’m still fanning myself from watching that film a few days ago. Are you two a couple in real life?
Dontrella: No. (Laughing). We had just met each other. We rehearsed for two weeks and then filmed during the third week.
BL3: Tell us a little about your backgrounds.
Rashida: I’m a transformation coach and a writer and I have been working with women for the last eight years helping them to embrace the intersection between sexuality and spiritually.
Dontrella: I help to mentor other lesbians in the community and help them become comfortable with their bodies and sexuality through my poetry. From there we would have conversations and I would point them to different books. I’ve been an extra in a couple other lesbian projects.
BL3: This film was the first project that you’ve ever produced. Why make sex and sexuality the centerpiece?
Rashida: It’s common knowledge that the erotic is very taboo. It’s very uncomfortable for a lot of people regardless of religion. I set out to create spaces where women could indulge in the erotic without shame or judgment. Embracing the erotic within us allows us to show up in the world in a more powerful way.